How to Apply Smartly Online Without Compromising Your Security -

How to Apply Smartly Online Without Compromising Your Security -Guest Article by Tina L. DouglasJob seeking can definitely be full of ironies. When applying for a job, you share many important details to a stranger, the human resource partie with the hope and confidence that the person holding this vital information about you keeps it confidential.Though you promote yourself to these people as a valuable addition to the company, you also hold back to protect yourself from what is now called identity theft. Being the fastest rising crime in America and a new avenue for modern thieves to steal valuables from people, you need to be careful. These Internet thieves may very well hack the Internet, which may be lacking in security, a disparity in technology or simply by human mistake.A story was told of a nonprofit client who was moving her things to another place and found a big large pckchen in one of her spaces containing what every identity thief has been voraciously pining for a box full of resumes with information ranging from home addresses, social security numbers, passports, birth certificates, maiden names, signatures, and many more. Ellen B. Vance, HR consultant and auditor of The Titan Group, and HR Consultancy in VA., relates this. She told of how she and the nonprofit client almost collapsed at the site of all the valuable information that was owned by many people and how dangerous it would be if all of it was mishandled.Situations such as this could prove to be fatal, as when 800,000 U.S. and Canadian jobseekers lost their personal information when The Gaps job application website was hacked by cyber crooks, as well as Aetnas job application website. Aetna for its part was sued brde June 2009 for its failure to secure all the vital information.If youre an applicant and are so eager to share you information about yourself to make you more marketable, you can better protect yourself by being cautious in disclosing information and not let your enthusiasm cloud your judgment on what information to share. One tip as advised by Lorne Epstein, creator of Inside Job, a Facebook community of jobseekers, is to not include your home address when sending resumes online since companies contact you through phone or email anyway, and to leave out leer segments that ask for social security numbers.As many people are making use of the technology to get their careers starting or moving up, and simply just want to live decent lives earning a living, crooks see this as an opportunity to do their stuff to earn their own living as well- by stealing valuable information and using it at the cost of destroying other peoples lives. By being wary in taking these pointers for applying for a job online, you may very well not only land a good legitimate job, but protect yourself from those who want to steal your identity and your life.Tina L. Douglas is a skilled writer from California. With numerous experiences in the field of writing for several financ ial institutions, she is greatly qualified across a variety of economic issues. Her notable pieces of writing involve identity theft protection.

5 Things You Should Never Say to Adoptive Parents

5 Things You Should Never Say to Adoptive Parents Before I started working in the fertility field, the emotions of adoptive parents were something I knew very little about. But since Im a psychiatry professor and author of eight books about stress, I thought I knew just what to say to them.1. Id usually say something like Your child is so lucky to have you as a parent When I met with adoptive parents for the first time, not realizing how hurtful this phrase can be.Now that I counsel couples going through IVF, ovum donation and annahme an kindes statt, Ive learned that fruchtwein adoptive parents dont feel like luck has much to do with their adoption journey at all. After interviews with lawyers, the costs, legal papers and waiting time, the adopted child certainly is not just found by chance, they point out. Often times, the decision to put a child up for adoption is not an easy one for the birth mother, either. Researchers say most birth mothers decided that adoption will be better for the child and are not just hoping the child will get lucky. Ive learned to say Im so happy for you allinstead.Actually, Ive learned that there are lots of things we say to adoptive parents that we think sound good, but theyre not. Here are four more.2. Ive heard people say, Now that youve relaxed about parenting, youll probably get pregnant.Adoptive parents are not necessarily interested in pregnancy. Some never were. Some no longer are. Besides, the idea that adoption increases the pregnancy success rate is fiction So is the notion that stress about parenting, or any kind of stress, can create long-term infertility. If stress and anxiety about parenting caused infertility, humans would no longer exist. Since the adoptive parent (or parents) and the child are now a family, the focus of adoptive parents is on parenting, not pregnancy. So, try asking questions you would ask any parent, like Is she a good sleeper or Whats his favorite game?3. My patients who are adoptive parents al so share that many people totenstill ask about the childs real mother or real father. They say, Does the child look as much like their real parents as they look like you?This may be meant as a compliment, but this is his real mother or real father that you are talking to. Adoptive parents point out that you are asking about the childs birth mother or birth father, and some adoptive parents have no idea what the birth parents look like. The question is even more of a problem if the parents have not yet discussed adoption with their child. Its better to compliment the childs own smile, coordination skills, social skills or intelligence, instead of offering resemblance comments. Just say something like What a friendly boy or What a smart girl.4. Another well-meaning but potentially negative comment is anything like this This child is adorable how could anyone have given them away?Adoptive parents, even those who have fully disclosed the adoption to the child, often dont want their chi ld to focus on the family they dont know but rather on the family that loves them and is raising them. This is particularly true if the children are teens. Adolescents are usually interested in their genetic history because they are developing their own identity, and their adoptive parents dont want them to worry that they have genes from people who are heartless or silly because they have given away an adorable child Just say instead Your child is adorable.5. Because many families have a genetic child before they add their adopted child, well-meaning but misguided friends often say I can tell which one is yoursIf parents have not yet told a child about the adoption, your comment end their right to decide when and how to tell the child. Furthermore, it implies that an adopted child is not really theirs. They are all ours, is the reply my patients tell me they give. They suggest you ask parents of an adopted child who has a non-adopted sibling the same questions you would ask any par ent of more than one child. Try Do they get along? orHow old are they?I may be a counselor, but adoptive parents have counseled me and heres their message if you are unsure about a question youd like to ask or a comment youd like to make, remember that adoption is a legal, private and permanent addition to a family. If your comment or question does not reflect those facts, dont share it. If youve thought about those points and still find that youve said something well-meaning but obviously upsetting to adoptive parents, just apologize and ask what a better comment would be. You are probably not the first to say something to them that they would prefer you not say. However, you can be the one to impress them with your conscientiousness.